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What IS Co-Dependency, Anyway?

By Sibyl McLendon

We all hear the phrase "co-dependency" all the time. Most

of us think that it just has to do with people who are

living with drunks or drug addicts. They don't really

understand what it means, or if they might be co-dependent.

Let's look at the name: "dependency" is a form of the word

"dependant" which means "Relying on or requiring the aid of

another for support." Children are dependent on their

parents. Being "CO" dependent means that two people are

dependent on each other, emotionally. Now that doesn't

sound so bad, does it?

The problem is when the dependency is hurtful, emotionally

stunted and/or keeps one or both people stuck.

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When you just never seem to be able to say, "No" when you

really don't want to do something, then that makes you

co-dependent! This is because of why you can't say no.

Chances are good that it is because you somehow feel that

people won't like you unless you are always doing favors for

them. Your family won't love you, your co-workers won't

respect you, doing things for others whenever they ask just

makes you a good person! You are dependent upon others for

your personal self esteem and respect.

One of the most important lessons that I learned from

attending a woman's group about co-dependency is when a

woman said, "I have learned that all the parts of my

personality that I thought were my greatest strengths were

actually also my greatest weaknesses. Always being the best

friend anyone ever had, always doing whatever anyone asked

of me, and always putting other's needs before my own were

holding me back."

Learning that your needs are important is a huge lesson.

You are just as entitled to have your needs met as anyone

else. You are just as entitled to care for yourself first!

Learning to say no, in a nice way, and that most people will

still like you and respect you when you do is a major step

towards breaking the co-dependent cycle and gaining self

esteem. If someone gets angry with you or abandons you in

some way, just because you can't do something for them the

second that they ask you to makes that person a not-so-nice

person. Maybe you need to examine why they are in your life

in the first place.

Obviously this is just one aspect of co-dependency. If you

feel that you may have a problem with this, then finding

some help may be the next step. You can get some therapy,

find a good Al-Anon meeting about it or even buy a good book

on the subject.

Just be willing to see that anyone can be co-dependent, and

learn to take care of yourself first!

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Sibyl McLendon is 1/2 Navajo, and is a personal empowerment

coach for Circle Of Grace http://www.circle-of-grace.com.

Sibyl can be contacted at sibyl@www.circle-of-grace.com

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