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To Commitment
Mr. Steven Carter's great insights into
relationship dynamics are presented here in an easy-to-understand language,
and without overdoing the psychological perspectives. Many commitment questions
are answered here in this book. A must read for anyone afflicted with commitment
issues or involved with someone who is.
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| He's
Scared, She's Scared
Available for the first time in paperback,
this follow-up to the phenomenally successful
Men Who Can't Love tackles
the issue of commitmentphobia, that persistent obstacle to truly satisfying
contemporary relationships. Authors Stephen Carter and Julia Sokol explore
why modern men and women are torn between the desire for intimacy and the
equally intense need for independence. Drawing on numerous interviews and
real-life scenarios, and written with humor, insight, and the kind of wisdom
gained by personal experience,
He's
Scared, She's Scared offes guidance for all of us who want genuine,
sustained intimacy with our romantic partners.
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| Men
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This book saved me from going crazy and
from wasting any more of my precious time with a man who is a consumate
commitmentphobic. I got this book after a therapist friend of mine said that
all my complaining and moaning about my commitmentphobic boyfriend sounded
just like the people in this book she'd read -
"Men
Who Can't Love". I got on line and nabbed a copy. What
a life saver! My jaw dropped as I read this book because it describes the
behaviors of commitmentphobics precisely as I have been experiencing my
boyfriend's behavior. It's so true that the more I pressed him for answers
while trying to understand his avoidant behaviors, the more he withdrew from
me. "I don't wanna talk about it" is his mantra. All his behaviors were laid
out like his biography in this book. It was shocking and revealing at the
same time.
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Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality
This is a
great book for an inside look at Borderline Personality Disorder. If you
have a person with BPD in life this book is a must have. If you have BPD
it will help you understand that some of your behaviors that seem unusual
to other are understandable and can be explained and
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Codependent, Codependency, and Codependence
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Am I Addicted
To My Relationship?
By Rebecca
Ishida
We all want love.
We all want to feel needed, nurtured and cared for. We also want to give
love and nurture others. Sometimes, this desire for a romantic relationship
becomes unhealthy, even toxic. How do we know when our desire for happily
ever after has become all-consuming, addictive? And when we are aware of
the addictive nature of the relationship, what do we do?
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Are You Addicted To Your
Relationship?
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Relationships can act in the same ways as drugs
and alcohol. We can use relationships to make us happy and fill the emptiness
we feel in our lives. If your relationship is physically or emotionally abusive,
but you find yourself constantly trying to please your partner no matter
what, this is a clear addiction. If your relationship is not abusive, but
you find yourself planning your whole life around your partner, you may be
codependent and addicted to your relationship.
Courtney* (not her real name) was with her boyfriend for two years. It was
a whirlwind romance and she thought she had found her soulmate. Six months
into the relationship, she found herself feeling down and in fear of losing
the relationship. In therapy, she was able to see that she had fallen hard
for her charming boyfriend. As time passed, he had become controlling and
she was constantly trying to please him. He was the barometer for her mood.
How ever he was feeling toward her set her mood for the day. She no longer
made the choice about how her day would go; he did. Courtney continued to
put her boyfriend first and lost sight of her own individual goals.
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Do You Put Your Relationship First?
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Courtney began to feel more depressed and her
other relationships and work suffered. She was so focused on pleasing her
boyfriend that she forgot about her own needs. Courtney needed to reexamine
her goals and her life. What did this relationship bring her? Did it enrich
her life, making her feel stronger, supported? Courtney realized that her
boyfriend was top priority and she had handed her self- esteem over to him.
He was in control.
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What Now?
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Courtney now saw how damaging this addiction
was becoming. With addictive relationships such as this, we need to identify
what is happening and then look at how to recover. This does not always mean
releasing the relationship. Sometimes it means we need to work on ourselves.
Often times, we need professional help as unresolved childhood issues have
a great deal to do with our present relationships. Our past is powerful and
we often reenact our family of origin issues. Courtney began to make the
link. Her father was a controlling alcoholic and this relationship with her
boyfriend was familiar. Working on her past and clarifying her goals began
the work toward healing. Courtney began to set appropriate limits with her
boyfriend and took time to focus on herself and her goals. Her depression
began to lift and she put herself first.
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Relationships are beautiful. They can make us
see life through different eyes. They can also become intoxicating like any
drug or alcohol. It is important to strike that balance and always be your
top priority.
Rebecca Ishida,
M.A., MFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist in West Hollywood,
CA. She has been in the field for over 9 years and is in private practice.
She can be reached at
http://www.rebeccaishida.com/.
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